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How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

“How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys” written by Bren Koger.

You know the feeling when you’re so excited about something you’re about to do?

You’ve maybe traveled a long distance.

Anticipated it for months.

Prepared, Imagined what it would be like, looked at pictures and dreamt of this moment for a long time…

only to be hugely disappointed when things don’t turn out as planned.

How to Handle Disappointment

I’m wondering if this is how Adele might have felt after her performance at the 2016 Grammys when there were technical difficulties with her sound while she was performing her song “All I Ask.”

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Adele’s 2016 Grammy Reaction

She tweeted after the performance.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

Follow Adele
‏‪@Adele‬

The piano mics fell on to the piano strings, that’s what the guitar sound was. It made it sound out of tune. Shit happens. X

How’s That For A Response?

I admire her professionalism when she just kept going with her performance like nothing was happening in spite of the problems.

Our Own Disappointment

We had our own little “Adele moment” last month when we were in Hong Kong.

We were there as part of our three week tour of China and were told by some friends who lived there that the two things you absolutely must do while you are there is to 1) take the Star Ferry Harbour tour across the bay.

 

and 2) walk or ride up the mountain to Victoria’s Peak to see the panoramic view of the entire city.

We only had two days so after the ferry tour (spectacular)

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

and a night of experiencing the night life of Hong Kong we got up early enough to take the metro to the Victoria’s peak tram. Where we were anticipating seeing the view of our lives.

Victoria’s Peak, Hong Kong

It was drizzling rain and overcast but the metro is so easy to navigate it was a very pleasant ride to the tram.

We were pleasantly surprised that there weren’t any long lines.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

We paid extra to go to the very top of the observation deck for the 360 degree viewing terrace and we got right on and had a great view of the hillside vegetation as we went up 1800 feet to the top in the tram.

 

as we all pile out with excitement to see one of the best views in the world we went into a 5 story look out building and traveled up to the very top on several escalators.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

Only to walk out to the terrace and to a wall of fog so thick you could barely see 50 feet in front of you.

As we strained to see even a light in the city of Hong Kong below we only saw gray misty fog.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

We walked around the perimeter and saw only one of the beautiful homes at the top of the hill a few hundred feet away.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

but saw absolutely nothing of the Hong Kong skyline or surrounding area.

 

 

How to Handle Disappointment Like A Champ

So What do you do when disappointing things happen? Because if you’re alive they will happen.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys

  1. Realize It’s part of life as Adele tweeted Sh%^ happens. Acknowledge that you feel disappointment. Feel the feeling and give yourself a few minutes to say. “This SUCKS!” then move on…
  2. Will this really matter one year from now? We have a choice. We can get upset and react or we can regroup and see the bright side of things. If this is the worst thing that can happen, we are pretty darn lucky. We were in Hong Kong. We got to travel up the tram to the very top. We were healthy alive and happy. I could go on and on, but you get my point.
  3. What can I learn from this? Could we have been better prepared? Maybe do a bit of research when we are sight seeing. Think about what you can learn from this.
  4. Make a list of 10 things you appreciate. It might take a few minutes to feel like doing this, but as quickly as possible make a mental list of 10 things you are grateful for or better yet write them down.
  5. Take 10 deep breaths and do some meditation, if you can.
  6. Find the seed of opportunity in every seeming setback. We were able to tell a great story and learn some new tools through this experience.

How To Handle Disappointment Like Adele 2016 Grammys - Hong Kong - Bren Koger and Mike Marko

Final Words On How To Handle Disappointment

So keep these 6 tips in mind the next time you encounter disappointment…

And, like Adele, you’ll be a superstar in anything that you do.

 

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The Key to How to Handle Disappointment

“The Key to How to Handle Disappointment” written by Bren Koger.

What is the most resilient parasite? A bacteria? A virus? An intestinal worm?

The Key to How to Handle Disappointment

An idea.

Resilience

Resilient, highly contagious. Once an idea has taken hold of the brain it’s almost impossible to eradicate. An idea that is fully formed, fully understood. That sticks, right in there somewhere.

This is a line from the movie “Inception” spoken by Leonardo DiCaprio’s character, Cobb. I happened to see this scene at the cardio theater of my gym and was struck by how similar it is to what Napoleon Hill calls Definiteness of Purpose in his classic book on self-development “Think and Grow Rich.”

Napoleon Hill’s Definiteness of Purpose

When you have definiteness of purpose it means that you know precisely what you want, (you have an idea) why you want it and how you are going to achieve it and commit yourself 100% to the process. (It’s taken hold of your brain and is impossible to eradicate)

Once it takes hold it’s almost impossible to eradicate.

Do you have an idea or a goal for your life that is stuck in your head?

It feels like no matter what, it’s impossible to eradicate?

Maybe you dream of becoming a famous author or owning a horse or maybe you want to travel to another country.

My Dream of Ireland & Disappointments007

For me, when I was a little girl my dream was to go to Ireland. I thought about it every day. I dreamt about it. I was fascinated with the country for as long as I can remember and felt compelled to get there. I would study pictures and read books and listen to Irish music every chance I got. I loved the Irish lilt, the scenery; It just seemed so magical and I would not rest until I got to go there.

I did get to accomplish my goals of visiting Ireland 3 times in my life but didn’t get to go for the first time until I was in my late 20’s. The picture above is from my last trip in 2009.

I had a few disappointments and setbacks on the way to getting there, but the idea of going there was so strong I didn’t let anything or anyone stop me.

The first setback was related to money. It seemed daunting as a child or teenager to come up with enough money and where I would stay? My parents divorced when I was 12 years and I subsequently moved around the country with my mom. My dream was put on the back burner for a few more years more but it never left my head.

After I was married and in my 20’s, I’d saved the money and planned a trip with my husband when my mother -in- law, unfortunately, had a stroke just days before we were about to leave. She recovered quickly with no permanent damage. and I was able to make the trip a few short month later by myself for a long weekend.

Looking back I realize I developed some skills at adapting to disappointments and setbacks that have helped me accomplish other goals in my life. The truth is anything worth having is worth fighting for and sometimes waiting a period of time. If it’s important enough it will stick in your head with such resiliency it will eventually happen.

If you feel like there is something in your life you have been striving for and it’s taking a while and you’ve experienced some setbacks along the way it can seem a little daunting to stay positive.

Tactics on How to Handle Disappointment

Here are a few tactics I’ve learned along the way to help you handle disappointment and forge ahead:

  1. Loosen up your grip on expectations. We tend to form a mental picture in our head of how we want things to progress.Visualization is necessary for accomplishing our goals. I wouldn’t have accomplished my goal of getting to Ireland if I hadn’t had such a sharp image in my head and used my imagination to keep it alive. Without this imagined idea, I wouldn’t have the resilience needed to accomplish my goal. Be willing to be flexible within that vision. Realize that everything is unfolding exactly as it should and be willing to adjust your vision of the outcome.
  2. A setback could actually lead to your best outcome. In the case of my trip to Ireland, there was a reason I should wait. It might have saved me from an accident or I may not have had the great experiences that I did had I gone when it was scheduled the first time. Allow for Gods perfect timing. “Sometimes there’s a period that we try to put a question mark on.” Joel Olstein
  3. Have the feelings you are feeling. Disappointment and even anger are feelings that may come up when you experience a setback. Acknowledge them, take a deep breath and sit with it until it passes. You may need to express your feeling to another person who is positive and encouraging.
  4. Ask yourself how this serves to open you heart to compassion Everything is can be used for good. Ask what this experience has to teach? and then listen to the answer. “If we will be quiet and ready enough, we shall find compensation in every disappointment.” Henry David Thoreau
  5. Know that the dream would not be in your head if there was not a way to accomplish it. “You want what you want because you know it’s possible. If it wasn’t, you wouldn’t. This is powerful. Embrace it. For whatever else you believe or don’t believe, this belief alone can take you the distance.”  The Universe

Final Words About How to Handle Disappointment

When you’re ready list the positive aspects of what’s happened. They are there when you are ready to see them. It might take some time to see or a few times of going back to the list but eventually you will see in the grand scheme of things everything happens for a reason. Your life is beautifully orchestrated and there are no accidents.

 

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